I will always associate Cherry pie with Washington’s birthday. I grew up on the story of George Washington chopping down the cherry tree, then admitting to the crime when his dad confronted him with the famous (though fictional) line ‘I cannot tell a lie, I chopped down that cherry tree’.  Today is National Cherry Pie […]

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  • February 20, 2017 - 10:55 am

    Peggy Gilbey McMackin - Oh what wonderful nostalgia you bring back Nancy! How I loved those cherry pies surrounding George Washington’s Birthday… and one year, in particular, the grocery store was selling just baked small cherry pies for fifteen cents each, I think my mom and me had two each! Last week someone and I were talking about the head silhouettes of Washington and Lincoln that everyone used to tape to their doors! Talk about days of savoring the basics! Thanks for sharing!ReplyCancel

Another Valentine’s Day is mercifully behind us. I have been trying to remember one when I wasn’t either unhappily single or unhappily coupled. I’m sure there have been some good ones, but none I can recall. Like New Year’s Eve, there is a lot of pressure associated with Valentine’s Day; love, chocolate, Champagne, cards. As […]

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  • February 15, 2017 - 7:53 am

    Peggy Gilbey McMackin - Great post for reflecting on. Funny, I never really liked Valentine’s Day except when I was a kid and we would carefully choose the special card within the box best matched to the other kids in the class. Valentine’s Day, while a ‘sweet’ idea is packed with so much burden of forced effort. Nothing against Hallmark, but, it seems a day as such, both for those single and with partners. Any day seems a good enough day to share love with others rather than the alternative designation.ReplyCancel

    • February 15, 2017 - 7:57 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Peggy, I agree, so much pressure to create some form of perfection. Oy!ReplyCancel

  • February 15, 2017 - 11:01 pm

    Cheney - I know it’s so cliche but “I could have written this post, it sounds just like me.”

    I think I have had a Valentine on ONE of the 34 Valentine’s Days I’ve been alive, and it was a total bust.

    I would love to have a Feb. 14th where I had someone to give me chocolates and a Dec. 25th when I had someone to kiss under some mistletoe, but alas..ReplyCancel

  • February 16, 2017 - 1:58 pm

    Ellen - Count me in as someone who would love to receive a love letter! Maybe I need to send one to get one. My husband and I haven’t celebrated Valentine’s Day as anything other than a sanctioned excuse to eat too much chocolate…ReplyCancel

  • February 16, 2017 - 3:21 pm

    Melony - My parents used to celebrate Valentines. Dad would buy roses or a ring and write a letter. He showered her with so much romance and then we’d do without for a few weeks. Hubby and I never celebrate it. I told him I’d punch him if he ever wasted money on flowers. So instead through the year he buys me stuffed toys or video games and books. I like that better anyway.ReplyCancel

    • February 16, 2017 - 3:23 pm

      nrlowell@comcast.net - We all find ways to show love, the trick is to find someone that shows it in a way we can recognize it <3ReplyCancel

If you look for a recipe for chop suey you will find a broad range of recipes. I was practically weaned on Chinese food, and it has remained one of my favorite cuisines, but I have never eaten chop suey. There are numerous dishes called chop suey, including a number called American chop suey, which […]

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  • February 18, 2017 - 11:06 am

    Amber - Lol, Love your comment about the blandness of food in certain ares of China. Yup. I found that to in my recent travels to Hong Kong. Nice article. I’m actually dying to make chop suey with zucchini noodles!ReplyCancel

When it comes to love, my life has been a series of mistakes followed by persistence landing me here; alive, alone and all things considered reasonably optimistic. Recently my sister and I were talking about a conversation we’d had about thirty years ago. She apologized for something I could barely recall. It was about the […]

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  • February 10, 2017 - 8:01 am

    Walker Thornton - Nancy, thank you for sharing a story that speaks to many of us. Many of us have had relationships that failed and wondered what went wrong–but don’t feel comfortable admitting it.

    Self-examination is helpful, at least it has been for me. I won’t offer those old platitudes or tell you that it gets easier. But,opening yourself to possibility is a good first step.ReplyCancel

As she gets older my daughter and I spend less time together, but our drives to school a few days a week have spawned what I refer to as my morning lecture series. Mornings are hectic and we hardly ever achieve a clean getaway; one of us invariably forgets and has to go back for […]

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  • February 8, 2017 - 7:52 am

    Peggy Gilbey McMackin - Nice post-Nancy. However, truth is, your job will never, ever, be done. The questions may change, but new ones will occur, morning lectures may transition to other forms of conversation and communication, but end… it definitely will not.ReplyCancel

    • February 8, 2017 - 8:08 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Peggy, best news in a while, and I suppose you’re right. I still miss my mom’s advice!ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2017 - 9:22 pm

    Danielle - It seems like you and your daughter have a really wonderful relationship, Nancy. I hope to be that close to my girls as they grow, too. It’s one of the signs of raising girls well, I think, to earn enough trust with them for the tough, scary questions.ReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 8:05 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Danielle, I treasure that relationship, I think we often feel it’s just us, and we sustain each other. ReplyCancel

  • February 8, 2017 - 10:51 pm

    Uma - Loved how you approached the topic and have these honest conversations with you daughter. I agree fully when you say that we learn as much when we explain our views to our children. Mornings are rushed for most of us but it’s so important to develop a routine and have an open channel where the parent and the child truly connect.ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2017 - 12:42 am

    Melony Boseley - Nancy, your daughter is so lucky to have such a vulnerable mother. You seem to be doing absolutely everything right. Coming from a girl who never has been able to talk the tough conversations with my mother, it’s a breath of fresh air that you don’t try to force your opinions onto her. XoxoReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 8:06 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Melony, believe me, I am hardly doing everything right! I often joke with her that it will 10-15 years before we know the damage I’ve inflicted on her 🙂ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2017 - 2:15 am

    Kalpanaa - Your post was thoughtful and well written. It took me back to my days of car rides with one or the other of my now adult daughters – the discussions and questions.ReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 8:04 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Thanks Kalpanaa, I know I’ll look back on these times with great fondness.ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2017 - 6:44 am

    Laura Neill - I adored this post. What I liked the most about this is the fact that you ‘stopped’ the lecture on sexuality when you found yourself ‘selling’ your opinion. How incredibly self-aware. For me, these moments between you and your daughter much more interactive than a real lecture though – maybe a Monday morning workshop series?? 🙂ReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 8:08 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Laura, perhaps, but I find that I do most of the talking… Sometimes I’m stopped by the eye-roll, other times she is very engaged…

  • February 9, 2017 - 8:54 am

    Parul Thakur - I loved your post, Nancy and I will tell you why. Your relationship with your daughter is absolutely ideal and how it should be. Mums are friends to daughters and they are one like you and yours, the world will be a better place.
    Fabulous piece!ReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 8:55 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Thank you Parul. I feel so lucky!ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2017 - 12:55 pm

    Amy Bee - Well, I always enjoy your writing, and this one was extra good. It tickles me that you call your ride to school the “Morning Lecture Series.” It sounds so PBS, lol! The idea of feminity is an interesting one, and you deftly take us through it. The way you intermingle the topic with your daughter growing up is wonderful and engaging. I especially like the ending; you wrap it all up nicely.ReplyCancel

    • February 9, 2017 - 1:07 pm

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Thanks Amy!ReplyCancel

  • February 9, 2017 - 8:15 pm

    Margaret - Seventeen is such a special age. For my girls it was the age they came back to us from the pulling away of the early teen years. Sounds like you are a great mom!ReplyCancel

    • February 10, 2017 - 6:42 am

      nrlowell@comcast.net - Thanks Margaret, I try to be a great mom, but as we all know there are plenty of things I’m screwing up 🙂ReplyCancel

  • February 10, 2017 - 12:00 pm

    yeah write #304 weekly writing challenge winners and staff picks - […] posts. Whether the post revolves around an evolving definition of seeing yourself or around a physical place (the car) that anchors what would otherwise be a list of too-brief explanations, it’s clear that most writers took a serious look at structure this week. The strong theme […]ReplyCancel

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